Mother of Eleven Gives Holiday Tips

 

With only a few shopping days left before Christmas, many parents are experiencing panic trying to figure out what to buy their kids when there are other demands on the budget this season such as providing heat for the winter months, gas that is now over $3 a gallon at the pump, and providing winter coats and sweaters to keep warm.  Many parents are worried about giving their children the essentials; yet want to still provide their children with a joyous holiday season.

 

After 38 years of Christmases as a mom who had to budget every penny, I have come up with some holiday tips and ideas that may spare you high credit card bills, past due notices from your creditors, and visits to the doctor because of holiday depression.

 

All kids love to receive gifts, but they don’t always remember the big, expensive, elaborate ones for long.  What will cause lasting memories and joy for the years to come cannot be bought.  Instead of falling into the trap of commercialism this year, give your kids the best Christmas ever while keeping your checkbook balanced.

 

The following are 10 sure-fire tips to choose from.  With just a bit of creativity, you can personalize each one of these ideas to your children.  Remember that kids translate “time” as equaling “love.”  The most precious moments of Christmas are those times spent together in laughter and enjoyment of one another.  Ask your kids, and they’ll tell you what really counts!

 

This year, spend less money and more time together and I’ll guarantee you that this will be your most memorable Christmas ever.  My eleven kids remind me of that every year when I ask them what they want for Christmas.  The answer is always, “Time together as a family laughing and talking about the fun things we did this past year.” 

 

Choose an idea or two from this list, and be prepared to have a most memorable holiday!

 

  1. Make a scrapbook of memories about your child – this will be a timeless keepsake for years to come!  Every child needs to know that you care.  What better way than to present a picture journal of their highlights of the year?
  2. Present your child with trip certificates.  Be creative.  Choose one trip per month that is a free or almost-free trip to a park, museum, learning center, play, or sports event.  You can create fun certificates on the computer, and give a crisp five-dollar bill with each certificate.  Then, follow through and enjoy 12 one-day adventures with your child during the year.  You will create memories that will never be forgotten!
  3. Allow your child to choose a gallon of paint in his favorite color and then give permission for him to turn his bedroom into a fantasy world.  The decorating might not be to your taste, but your child will love you forever for allowing his room to reflect his personality.  I still have a bedroom painted with Winnie-the-Pooh and rainbow colored handprints!
  4. Buy your child a pair of warm, fuzzy pajamas and a special book.  Present 11 coupons for a book-a-month to be purchased along with a trip alone with you to a bookstore for the remaining months of the year.  Snuggle up and read together and enjoy the adventures that only can be found in good books.
  5. Buy a boxful of party items – party hats, decorations, party favors, and balloons.  Then, give a special “I love you” note saying that you will provide your child with one of the most fun parties ever.  Allow your child to invite her best friends and enjoy a day of fun and laughter.  The party will never be forgotten and the memories will last forever!
  6. Give your child one hand-written gift certificate for $25 per month for each month of the year.  You and your child can make plans to spend an afternoon together once a month and your child can buy the item of her choice.  You’ll teach saving, budgeting, patience, and the joy of expectation.  And, you’ll get to spend time together!
  7. Give a blanket, a flashlight, and a canteen.  Include a special “indoor camping” certificate good for six times during the year.  Fix an old-fashioned tent in the living room and learn how to be a kid again with your child.  Stay up all night telling scary stories and eating popcorn.  What fun!  Mark the dates on the calendar and watch your child wait in anticipation for each fun night.
  8. Buy your child a piggy bank that cannot be broken into.  Give your child a voucher for placing one dollar every day into the piggy bank for the next 365 days.  By you giving up a pack of gum or one cup of coffee a day, you and your child can watch the piggy bank grow to the large sum of $365.  That’s a big gift coming from just a little sacrifice.  
  9. Fix a “fun bag” filled with a variety of things such as movie rental tickets, a pizza ticket, a night out at McDonald’s coupon, a skating pass, a movie pass, a bowling pass.  You get the idea.  And, plan on enjoying some time together during the year when your child cashes in on each item in his fun bag.
  10. Create a special tradition and begin it the week of Christmas.  Maybe it is going out for breakfast on the last Saturday of every month.  Maybe it is spending time playing basketball or baking cookies on a certain day of each month.  You know your child, so adapt the tradition to his or her liking.  What better fun than spending alone time with your child?  Give your child a “tradition coupon” and stick to it.  These fun times spent together are gifts that can never get outdated or will never be taken away or forgotten. 

 

I’ve tried most of these holiday ideas, and I know that they work.  Some of my gifts have not been as elaborate as these, though.  Taking 11 kids to a bookstore once a month was an impossibility, but I sure did throw many neighborhood parties and made cherished memories for all of us!

 

Make this holiday season a time of joyful giving and living.  Don’t get caught in the stress trap and the financial net of debt.  Relax and give your children what they need most – you!

 

 

Clara Hinton

 

Professional Speaker, Workshop Leader, Author